Single: Choice or Circumstances

 

    When I was in college, often times people will tend to say " Huwag ka munang mag-aasawa." At the back of my mind, I will say, "what the heck, boyfriend nga wala; asawa pa kaya." Every time I went back to my hometown, they say the same thing. "Huwag ka munang mag-aasawa." I keep on wondering why they keep on saying this to me, where in fact I don't have boyfriend;  honestly  during the whole duration of my college life, I simply don't commit. There  are boy/s or men who try to pursue me but my answer to them is simply " I have priorities." Aside from that, I don't have enough resources to date them- TIME, MONEY and EFFORT. 

    Fast forward... I pass the Board exam, I got a job and I'm on my journey towards financial freedom. I'm  in my seasons of my life, wherein I want to discover myself, love myself and work on myself. I felt annoyed, whenever my co-workers will tease me about boys, they always tend to say "Ayyy, meron na yang reserve", where in fact I don't have any. 

    I was thinking to pursue the single blessedness. I have a co-worker who is in this vocation, they keep on asking questions like "Bakit kaya hindi ka napangasawa? Sabay hirit na,  maganda ka naman, okay ka na man." I was just silently listening to this and reflecting. It reminds me of one thing  " There's nothing wrong or abnormal of being single; it can happen to me, to you or to anyone; by choice or by circumstances. We just we to enjoy the seasons of our life, either: Married, Single blessedness, religious men/woman.

    Friends not everyone is for marriage, not everyone is for religious life and not everyone is for single blessedness. What ever choice we make let's respect it, often times those ladies or women who choose Single blessedness are often discrimanated as if it was taboo to be single. 

 To all the single ladies or women who are annoyed and irritated to their parents, relatives, friends, and co-workers. Who always ask them, "may boyfriend ka na ba?"... "Kailan ka mag-aasawa?" 

Whatever choice you make, be happy and enjoy it. 

    Either you are MARRIED, SINGLE OR IN A RELIGIOUS vocation. You are worthy. You are loved and that what's really MATTER.